Coaching Caregivers to Respond to Aggression
Coaching Caregivers to Respond to Aggression in Teens
Aggression and violence in the home is one of the most distressing challenges caregivers face. The fear and disruption caused by a teen’s aggressive behavior can leave parents feeling helpless. Addressing this issue requires a structured approach that ensures safety while supporting the teen in developing healthier coping mechanisms.
As part of the Coaching Caregivers Lunch & Learn series at Proven Practice, I’ll be hosting a talk on March 12th at 12 PM EST to share practical strategies for providers working with caregivers of teens exhibiting violent behaviors. Below are some key strategies we’ll explore.
Assessing Behavior and Identifying Patterns
The first step is conducting a thorough assessment of the teen’s aggression, including specific incidents, triggers, and responses. I ask caregivers to describe three memorable instances from the past year, focusing on what led up to the incident, the behaviors displayed, and the outcome. This helps us identify patterns and ineffective responses, allowing for better preparation moving forward.
Creating a Safety Plan and Reducing Conflict
Once triggers are identified, we work on a realistic safety plan to reduce escalation. This includes adjusting communication strategies, establishing safe spaces, and setting clear, consistent expectations. I also introduce the One-Week Challenge, encouraging parents to avoid arguments, minimize triggers, and focus on reducing household stress. Breaking the cycle of conflict lays the foundation for more effective interventions.
Building Positive Interactions
Aggression often reinforces negative parent-teen dynamics. To shift this, I help caregivers find positive, enjoyable activities to do with their child, focusing on quality time and shared interests. This helps rebuild trust and reduces hostility in daily interactions.
Teaching De-escalation and Implementing Consequences
I coach parents on how to stay calm, give space, and use neutral language to de-escalate situations. Additionally, we discuss effective consequences that are immediate, consistent, and reinforce alternative coping skills. The goal is to reduce aggression while promoting healthier ways of expressing frustration.
For additional details, here is a PDF handout on this topic.
Disclaimer:
The information provided in this blog post and during Lunch & Learn sessions is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute medical, psychological, or professional advice. It is not a substitute for individualized consultation, diagnosis, or treatment by a qualified professional. If you or someone you know requires specific support or treatment, please consult a licensed healthcare provider. Participation in these sessions or reliance on the content provided does not establish a professional relationship or supervision. Proven Practice and its affiliates are not liable for any outcomes resulting from the application of this information.
